First Reward Chart

For about three weeks now i've been using a reward chart for J.R. She seems to be enjoying the whole experience so far, and loves to choose which 'sticker' she gets and place it on the chart. The behaviours i'm trying to tackle using this reward chart are mealtimes and using the potty.

So the daily tasks, as declared by Mummy, are:

1. Use potty
2. Finish breakfast
3. Use potty
4. Finish lunch
5. Use potty
6. Finish dinner
7. Brush teeth/wash hands

And so far it's going quite well, in week 1 she managed 25 'stickers' out of a possible 35.

And that includes two extra rewards, one for learning her full name and one for attempting to get dressed herself!

I'm giving stickers not only for completing the set tasks but also when I catch good behaviour, because sometimes when a childs behaviour has been less than ideal, any good behaviour then goes unnoticed.

The chart we're using is £6 from Early Learning Centre and comes with 35 reward magnets and a dry wipe pen.

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